生与死（你有过这种想法吗）

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Does anyone agree that funerals are a little bit more depressing than they should be? When I die I don't want people to wear black, I don't want them to sing hymns. I want people to celebrate my life. We celebrate birth and birthdays, we celebrate anniversaries why not the end of a great life.
When my uncle died my family sat in a unity club for the wake and there was no laughter there was no smiles, people were crying and looking sad and barely speaking. I'm not saying we should not cry or we shouldn't be sad but surely he wouldn't have wanted us to sit around and be miserable.
When I do go I am going to put money aside for me to have a right good send off. I want the monty python "always look on the bright side of life" playing. I am having it so no one wears black. At my wake there should be music. Happy music. There should be pictures up of me during my life happy, instead of ones people normally pick where the deceased is looking very serious. I think if people was to choose a picture of me looking serious it would be a huge miscarriage of justice. I am not serious at all I'm mad and loony and I never sit still. It wouldn't match.
Another thing I don't want people to do is spend a load of money on an urn. My uncle had a £500 one and I think that is a stupid amount of money for an urn. I know he wouldn't have wanted it. He would have wanted to be thrown over the crossing between England and Guernsey because his heart truly belonged to the sea. For me I want to be spread all across Birmingham. I want to be spread out.


有没有人同意，葬礼比我们认为的更令人沮丧？我死的时候，我不希望人们穿上丧服唱赞美诗，我希望人们庆祝我活过的这一辈子。我们可以庆祝生命的诞生，我们可以庆祝生日，我们可以庆祝每一个纪念日，为什么我们不可以庆祝一个伟大生命的结束呢？
我的叔叔去世的时候，我的家人们为他守灵，他们没有笑容，更听不到笑声，他们哭着，眼神哀伤，话语勉强。我不是说我们不应该哭或者不应该哀恸，但毫无疑问，我的叔叔肯定不愿意我们这么难过地围坐在这里。
我将为了有一个我想要的送别仪式而存一笔钱，我希望在仪式上，“monty python ”乐团在演奏着“永远对生活保持乐观”，我希望在那里没有人穿着丧服，有欢快的音乐营造气氛，那里应该挂着我享受生活时候的相片，而不是摆着一张精挑细选出来的非常严肃、正式的照片——这绝对不是我想要的，我绝非一个严肃的人，我好动，喜欢发疯，那样的相片完全不适合我。
而且我不希望花一大把钱在骨灰盒上。我叔叔的那个骨灰盒花了500英镑，我认为花这么多钱买这么一个瓷缸子是件非常愚蠢的事情，我知道我的叔叔也不愿意这样，他的愿望是横渡英格兰和格恩西，因为他有一颗属于大海的心灵。
至于我自己，我想将我的骨灰洒遍伯明翰，我爱这片土地。